When we get married, we recognize that it is for better or for worse. We always want to do what we can to safeguard the marriage, but we also need to consider all the factors involved.
One of the things that is very common these days is living in a blended family. Sometimes, it can be a beautiful thing but it can also be difficult, especially when the children have problems with each other.
The man in this story recognized the danger and decided to take action when his daughter was being bullied. It ended the relationship, but did he take things too far?
I was a widower when I met my wife 4 years ago. She was a divorced mom of two. I had a daughter also. The three girls are 13 and 11 (my stepdaughters) and 12 (my daughter). My wife’s ex was kind of an issue when we met, but it was easy not to expose my daughter to him, so I felt secure in moving forward. My daughter really liked my wife and was excited to maybe have siblings. My stepdaughters were fine with my daughter at first. Of course they didn’t just call her sister magically or treat her the same right away but they were nice.
That all changed within a month of my wife and I getting married 2 years ago. The girls dad hates my daughter and they (the girls) will spew that hate in our home, and will use it to bully my daughter. A grown ass man called my 10 year old a fat repulsive pig, a w*ore and the reason abortion was invented (to list only a few). The girls have called her dumb, they have mocked her for being shy and introverted. I made it clear that could not continue if we were to stay married and my wife was determined she would get them to stop. I got my daughter therapy and I did as much as I could to keep them separate. But even at night they started to taunt her. So I made the decision to move out with my daughter and I told my wife our marriage could not continue. She begged me to stay. She said she loves us and her girls need me. I said my daughter comes first.
Ever since I filed for the divorce my wife’s family have been telling me how much my stepdaughters need me, how badly they need to see a healthy and good father figure in their lives, and that I will destroy them if I leave. How they’re important and I need to prioritize them. I told them they are not more important than my daughter. Outrage ensued and I was asked how I could say that. They said my wife was prioritizing my daughter and being loved by her should be enough for her to understand her sisters need me to stay in their lives. And I am an asshole for saying their granddaughters are not special. I told them that isn’t what I said. But they said I dismissed two young girls and made it sound like they weren’t worth fighting for.
AITA?
