We are going to have many different relationships in our lives, some of which are loving and benefit us greatly, and others that work in the opposite direction. Unfortunately, the relationship between a mother-in-law and her daughter-in-law is often toxic.

Things don’t have to be ugly all the time in order for problems to exist. This family is an excellent example because the mother wanted her son to go to lunch with her for her birthday, but her daughter-in-law was pregnant and her son felt it was right that he stayed at home with her.

This led to an exchange that caused many family members to shake their heads in wonderment. They were even saying nasty things about him and his pregnant wife, so he went on Reddit to see if he was in the wrong. This is his story.

My wife is currently seven months pregnant and has been having a rough pregnancy. She is also pretty emotional right now which is as to be expected. My mom has a birthday coming up and i wanted to take her to dinner.

My mom loves seafood and picked a restaurant which is about 40 minutes away. My wife is uncomfortable being in the car for long stretches of time, and there isnt much on the menu she could eat as she can’t have shellfish. i explained this to my mom and she said my wife can stay home. i told her my wife is particularly sensitive right now and that would make her feel bad. My mom got annoyed and asked if she really had to pick something else because a grown woman “couldn’t be left home alone’

I told her pregnancy isn’t forever and please just work with us. She said to forget it. she wants seafood and all of the good seafood restaurants are that far away. I asked her to pick another type of cuisine though (she loves Mexican and hibachi, both of which we have local) but she yelled at me that her birthday isn’t about my wife. I accused her of being selfish and childish and said my wife comes first, so she hung up.

Now everyone is telling me that I am an a**hole, and my wife is in tears as the whole family is mad at her.